New Posts For Thread: Dont understand what I've done wrong to make him cheat or lie to me.http://community.beliefnet.com/go/thread/view/43921/27055229/Dont_understand_what_Ive_done_wrong_to_make_him_cheat_or_lie_to_me.I'm going to start off by saying I do love him. And I don't want my marriage to end. But How can one fix a marriage that is so deeply broken. We hardly ever fight. But money is a major issue for us. He likes to keep his paychecks and not pay the billMostyn is wise. I agree with her.http://community.beliefnet.com/go/thread/view/43921/27055229/Dont_understand_what_Ive_done_wrong_to_make_him_cheat_or_lie_to_me.?post_id=490509549#490509549Mostyn is wise. I agree with her.Sat, 26 Mar 2011 19:23:22 -0500Lifehappens, you give no indication as to how long you have been married but I'm guessing that it hasn't been for any great length of time.Did you and your husband take any kind of marriage preparation course before you walked down the aisle? If not,http://community.beliefnet.com/go/thread/view/43921/27055229/Dont_understand_what_Ive_done_wrong_to_make_him_cheat_or_lie_to_me.?post_id=487622729#487622729Lifehappens, you give no indication as to how long you have been married but I'm guessing that it hasn't been for any great length of time.Did you and your husband take any kind of marriage preparation course before you walked down the aisle? If not,Tue, 01 Mar 2011 13:39:33 -0600I don't think that will work. A couple is two people. Putting all the blame on the other implies that oneself is perfect--which is rarely the situation. If, when my husband and I were trying to get back together, I had laid all the blame on him, anhttp://community.beliefnet.com/go/thread/view/43921/27055229/Dont_understand_what_Ive_done_wrong_to_make_him_cheat_or_lie_to_me.?post_id=487218853#487218853I don't think that will work. A couple is two people. Putting all the blame on the other implies that oneself is perfect--which is rarely the situation. If, when my husband and I were trying to get back together, I had laid all the blame on him, anFri, 25 Feb 2011 19:49:45 -0600I hope everything will fall into its proper places...just pray that he will be able to realize all his faults and change for the better... God Bless....http://community.beliefnet.com/go/thread/view/43921/27055229/Dont_understand_what_Ive_done_wrong_to_make_him_cheat_or_lie_to_me.?post_id=486891377#486891377I hope everything will fall into its proper places...just pray that he will be able to realize all his faults and change for the better... God Bless....Wed, 23 Feb 2011 04:17:44 -0600lifehappens,Thank you for the update. It sounds as if things are headed in a more positive direction already. Hatman has given you some excellent ideas for how to approach this.Another thing you might consider looking into is a marriage enrichment prhttp://community.beliefnet.com/go/thread/view/43921/27055229/Dont_understand_what_Ive_done_wrong_to_make_him_cheat_or_lie_to_me.?post_id=486836217#486836217lifehappens,Thank you for the update. It sounds as if things are headed in a more positive direction already. Hatman has given you some excellent ideas for how to approach this.Another thing you might consider looking into is a marriage enrichment prTue, 22 Feb 2011 15:10:41 -0600Lifehappens-i'm glad that your husband has seemed to come around as far as the direct deposits and the deleting of the gal from his facebook page, etc....but you should be aware that many husbands, when cornered/caught, will not truly be repentant, bhttp://community.beliefnet.com/go/thread/view/43921/27055229/Dont_understand_what_Ive_done_wrong_to_make_him_cheat_or_lie_to_me.?post_id=486828761#486828761Lifehappens-i'm glad that your husband has seemed to come around as far as the direct deposits and the deleting of the gal from his facebook page, etc....but you should be aware that many husbands, when cornered/caught, will not truly be repentant, bTue, 22 Feb 2011 14:01:19 -0600UPDATE: The meeting with my pastor was wonderful. He helped me to discover that our marriage does not have a core. He suggested making God our core and see where it takes us. Which I have no doubt that it will bring great things. The hard parthttp://community.beliefnet.com/go/thread/view/43921/27055229/Dont_understand_what_Ive_done_wrong_to_make_him_cheat_or_lie_to_me.?post_id=486817229#486817229UPDATE: The meeting with my pastor was wonderful. He helped me to discover that our marriage does not have a core. He suggested making God our core and see where it takes us. Which I have no doubt that it will bring great things. The hard partTue, 22 Feb 2011 12:09:29 -0600lifehappens,Welcome to the Relationships & Marriage forum. I am deeply sorry for the pain you are experiencing in your marriage. It is completely understandable to have deep worries when bills aren’t being paid and the family finances seem outhttp://community.beliefnet.com/go/thread/view/43921/27055229/Dont_understand_what_Ive_done_wrong_to_make_him_cheat_or_lie_to_me.?post_id=486772317#486772317lifehappens,Welcome to the Relationships & Marriage forum. I am deeply sorry for the pain you are experiencing in your marriage. It is completely understandable to have deep worries when bills aren’t being paid and the family finances seem outTue, 22 Feb 2011 00:44:10 -0600I'm going to start off by saying I do love him. And I don't want my marriage to end. But How can one fix a marriage that is so deeply broken. We hardly ever fight. But money is a major issue for us. He likes to keep his paychecks and not pay the billhttp://community.beliefnet.com/go/thread/view/43921/27055229/Dont_understand_what_Ive_done_wrong_to_make_him_cheat_or_lie_to_me.?post_id=486736277#486736277I'm going to start off by saying I do love him. And I don't want my marriage to end. But How can one fix a marriage that is so deeply broken. We hardly ever fight. But money is a major issue for us. He likes to keep his paychecks and not pay the billMon, 21 Feb 2011 15:52:23 -0600