New Posts For Thread: Help! Bad decision after bad decision...http://community.beliefnet.com/go/thread/view/43921/25588757/Help!__Bad_decision_after_bad_decision...I have been married for almost 2 years (2nd marriage) and have two kids from my previous marriage. I was divorced 7 1/2 years before I got remarried, and we decided to have a baby (he had no children), who is now a year old. He is a complete joy! HowI second that advice. I reached a point where I was also unsure of whether I wanted to be in my marriage. Counseling was helpful. It's not a cure all, but in our case, it showed me that he was willing to change some things and discuss some thingshttp://community.beliefnet.com/go/thread/view/43921/25588757/Help!__Bad_decision_after_bad_decision...?post_id=461520833#461520833I second that advice. I reached a point where I was also unsure of whether I wanted to be in my marriage. Counseling was helpful. It's not a cure all, but in our case, it showed me that he was willing to change some things and discuss some thingsThu, 12 Aug 2010 09:49:12 -0500Okay, hold on a minute.Lauren, first of all, understand that many women marry for security, rather than for romantic love, especially if they have children. There is no shame in that, so beating yourself up now is absurd, two years into this. Howevhttp://community.beliefnet.com/go/thread/view/43921/25588757/Help!__Bad_decision_after_bad_decision...?post_id=461411357#461411357Okay, hold on a minute.Lauren, first of all, understand that many women marry for security, rather than for romantic love, especially if they have children. There is no shame in that, so beating yourself up now is absurd, two years into this. HowevWed, 11 Aug 2010 15:12:57 -0500How long did you know him before marrying? He was all the things you complain about before you married.... Why is it so repulsive now?Who is the other man? What does he do? I ask because the biggest part of the time that someone is happy in a marrhttp://community.beliefnet.com/go/thread/view/43921/25588757/Help!__Bad_decision_after_bad_decision...?post_id=461388589#461388589How long did you know him before marrying? He was all the things you complain about before you married.... Why is it so repulsive now?Who is the other man? What does he do? I ask because the biggest part of the time that someone is happy in a marrWed, 11 Aug 2010 12:57:56 -0500How long did you know him before marrying? He was all the things you complain about before you married.... Why is it so repulsive now?Who is the other man? What does he do? I ask because the biggest part of the time that someone is happy in a marrhttp://community.beliefnet.com/go/thread/view/43921/25588757/Help!__Bad_decision_after_bad_decision...?post_id=461340649#461340649How long did you know him before marrying? He was all the things you complain about before you married.... Why is it so repulsive now?Who is the other man? What does he do? I ask because the biggest part of the time that someone is happy in a marrWed, 11 Aug 2010 07:07:21 -0500LaurenJane-If you NEVER loved him, do you think you married him under false pretenses?What DID you want out of this marriage?It seems clear that you now feel like you don't love him---no sex, fart king, no time for you or your children, etc.Does he khttp://community.beliefnet.com/go/thread/view/43921/25588757/Help!__Bad_decision_after_bad_decision...?post_id=461291937#461291937LaurenJane-If you NEVER loved him, do you think you married him under false pretenses?What DID you want out of this marriage?It seems clear that you now feel like you don't love him---no sex, fart king, no time for you or your children, etc.Does he kTue, 10 Aug 2010 19:31:00 -0500Laurenjane,Welcome to Beiefnet and to the Relationships & Marriage Forum. I am sorry that you are hurting in your marriage. You are recognizing that your attitude towards your husband is causing things that otherwise wouldn’t be such a big dealhttp://community.beliefnet.com/go/thread/view/43921/25588757/Help!__Bad_decision_after_bad_decision...?post_id=461282837#461282837Laurenjane,Welcome to Beiefnet and to the Relationships & Marriage Forum. I am sorry that you are hurting in your marriage. You are recognizing that your attitude towards your husband is causing things that otherwise wouldn’t be such a big dealTue, 10 Aug 2010 18:20:35 -0500I have been married for almost 2 years (2nd marriage) and have two kids from my previous marriage. I was divorced 7 1/2 years before I got remarried, and we decided to have a baby (he had no children), who is now a year old. He is a complete joy! Howhttp://community.beliefnet.com/go/thread/view/43921/25588757/Help!__Bad_decision_after_bad_decision...?post_id=461274153#461274153I have been married for almost 2 years (2nd marriage) and have two kids from my previous marriage. I was divorced 7 1/2 years before I got remarried, and we decided to have a baby (he had no children), who is now a year old. He is a complete joy! HowTue, 10 Aug 2010 17:13:05 -0500