New Posts For Thread: Saving sex for marriage, but never getting married?http://community.beliefnet.com/go/thread/view/43921/20556677/Saving_sex_for_marriage,_but_never_getting_marriedHi everyone Im new here. I want to start by saying my boyfriend and I have only been together a few months, and both of us are christian. Ive had sex before, multiple times with multiple people, but he is a virgin. Ive considered repledging myself buYou ask the questions I never thought of.http://community.beliefnet.com/go/thread/view/43921/20556677/Saving_sex_for_marriage,_but_never_getting_married?post_id=381919921#381919921You ask the questions I never thought of.Thu, 24 Dec 2009 19:20:06 -0600Are you absolutely positive he is heterosexual? If he is Christian and gay, he may not want sex because women are not appealing, but still feel the need to look "normal" by having a girlfriend.http://community.beliefnet.com/go/thread/view/43921/20556677/Saving_sex_for_marriage,_but_never_getting_married?post_id=381883469#381883469Are you absolutely positive he is heterosexual? If he is Christian and gay, he may not want sex because women are not appealing, but still feel the need to look "normal" by having a girlfriend.Thu, 24 Dec 2009 10:03:31 -0600Don't play religous games with each other, it will never end. Focus on the spiritual side of you're relationship, as you're souls connect, so will you're physicallity. Marriage is God's ideal, don't insult Him by sticking around if that's not going thttp://community.beliefnet.com/go/thread/view/43921/20556677/Saving_sex_for_marriage,_but_never_getting_married?post_id=381874057#381874057Don't play religous games with each other, it will never end. Focus on the spiritual side of you're relationship, as you're souls connect, so will you're physicallity. Marriage is God's ideal, don't insult Him by sticking around if that's not going tThu, 24 Dec 2009 07:29:22 -0600Hi,I'm new to this forum, but I have read enough to say something about your ordeal. (well i really hope so) I think that what you both need is a deep conversation that would eventually end up with a common understanding of what you both are going tohttp://community.beliefnet.com/go/thread/view/43921/20556677/Saving_sex_for_marriage,_but_never_getting_married?post_id=379965397#379965397Hi,I'm new to this forum, but I have read enough to say something about your ordeal. (well i really hope so) I think that what you both need is a deep conversation that would eventually end up with a common understanding of what you both are going toSat, 05 Dec 2009 01:40:13 -0600Thanks for the input everyone. I agree it is not best to try and change him or to wait, so maybe I can somehow change myself? In any case, thanks everyone.http://community.beliefnet.com/go/thread/view/43921/20556677/Saving_sex_for_marriage,_but_never_getting_married?post_id=379040057#379040057Thanks for the input everyone. I agree it is not best to try and change him or to wait, so maybe I can somehow change myself? In any case, thanks everyone.Wed, 25 Nov 2009 04:34:19 -0600If he wants to be celibate for the rest of his life, then I'd suggest you move on to the next guy, since that's obviously not what you want. Maybe you two can salvage a platonic friendship.Also, the heavy petting isn't doing anyone any good... (in myhttp://community.beliefnet.com/go/thread/view/43921/20556677/Saving_sex_for_marriage,_but_never_getting_married?post_id=378787129#378787129If he wants to be celibate for the rest of his life, then I'd suggest you move on to the next guy, since that's obviously not what you want. Maybe you two can salvage a platonic friendship.Also, the heavy petting isn't doing anyone any good... (in mySun, 22 Nov 2009 17:22:26 -0600Hi, I am going to update the still unchanged situation that I posted about 2 months ago.He still will not consider sex and weve fought about it to the point that it has now been taken off the table. he will not sleepover, he will not shower with me.http://community.beliefnet.com/go/thread/view/43921/20556677/Saving_sex_for_marriage,_but_never_getting_married?post_id=378734357#378734357Hi, I am going to update the still unchanged situation that I posted about 2 months ago.He still will not consider sex and weve fought about it to the point that it has now been taken off the table. he will not sleepover, he will not shower with me.Sun, 22 Nov 2009 02:03:14 -0600I wonder what he's doing dating if he wants neither sex nor marriage to come out of it. I think it's time to talk this one out. And pick it all apart relentlessly. You both need to know where you stand, and not to waste time with someone who's not onhttp://community.beliefnet.com/go/thread/view/43921/20556677/Saving_sex_for_marriage,_but_never_getting_married?post_id=359977509#359977509I wonder what he's doing dating if he wants neither sex nor marriage to come out of it. I think it's time to talk this one out. And pick it all apart relentlessly. You both need to know where you stand, and not to waste time with someone who's not onMon, 12 Oct 2009 09:10:08 -0500Irene-Wow. Nice analysis.Loveisabattlefield-Don't know what to tell ya except this: for most men, their brain is not fully formed until age 25 or so.The tears when you offer to leave are an attempt at manipulation, imo, and control, too, quite possihttp://community.beliefnet.com/go/thread/view/43921/20556677/Saving_sex_for_marriage,_but_never_getting_married?post_id=354280057#354280057Irene-Wow. Nice analysis.Loveisabattlefield-Don't know what to tell ya except this: for most men, their brain is not fully formed until age 25 or so.The tears when you offer to leave are an attempt at manipulation, imo, and control, too, quite possiThu, 08 Oct 2009 19:55:51 -0500Irene, once again a very valid and convincing viewpoint. I do think his age plays a role in it, mine as well considering we're the same age. I think I know what I want but even MY opinions could change. I definitely agree that it would have to be somhttp://community.beliefnet.com/go/thread/view/43921/20556677/Saving_sex_for_marriage,_but_never_getting_married?post_id=354273641#354273641Irene, once again a very valid and convincing viewpoint. I do think his age plays a role in it, mine as well considering we're the same age. I think I know what I want but even MY opinions could change. I definitely agree that it would have to be somThu, 08 Oct 2009 19:10:25 -0500