Applications to Partnership Love
Let your love shine through your actions and behaviors. Don't rely on words to show your love especially when they're not supported by prior behaviors. Are you claiming that you love him/her? Anyone could do that. If the feeling's there, it must have turned into actions. The actions are the foundations you need to base your claims on. So the better path would be to go from actions to words. When there's a need for words to be heard, speak from your heart.
Use the circumstances coming up to show your love. When you do it during a normal talk or in normal situations, it won't impress him/her. So use the situations that come up. When you choose circumstances to show your love, it's like you pick a tool for doing it and believe it it's a good tool.
When you do use words, remember what you've said and in fact claimed. Your actions are going to prove or disprove it and he/she is waiting to see whether you keep your word or not.
Try to be unpredictable. Listen actively to learn the small/big things he/she cares about and then surprise him/her by doing something about it at the most unexpected time.
Show your love to others by showing your love for what they really like or to what interests them. This is another impressive tool. Learn how to use it.
Remember that some people recognize or show love in different ways. For example, some people may show their love by kissing and touching, while another person may show love by doing things or just having quality time with the one they love. Fine-tune your music to match your beloved one's needs and expectations.
Think and act spontaneously, to be prepared (like you're reading this), but don't exactly pre-plan anything.
When you've built enough credit about your feelings towards him/her, make a small unexpected comment or sentence about your previously-undisclosed feelings at a very special moment, especially with a tone showing you're not waiting for a response (e.g. without looking into her eyes). An example of this is illustrated here: you do something for her/him, she/he is amazed and appreciates it, you seize the opportunity and tell her of your very honorable belief about her/him. This can be so emotionally penetrative. Such an opportunity only happens once in your relationship. You'll recognize that very special moment when it comes up. So don't use this rule in ordinary situations and don't use it before you've built enough credit with your partner.
"I Love You" - Words we long to hear but words we have, if we are lucky, heard from many men or women we've dated. Sometimes, I have heard the words "I Love You" but his actions have said, "I want sex." Sometimes, I have been caught off guard when these words were spoken to me way before I was ready to hear them. Does saying those magical three words make it real? Not for all.
I want to feel loved. Feelings come from words reinforced by actions. As the song in the 1990s said "Actions Speak Louder Than Words." Words are empty without actions to support them. If a picture is worth one thousand words, an action is worth one million! if you really want us to feel loved - SHOW us you love us.
To many times people throw out words or phrases that they don't mean. "I love you" "I'll call you" "You mean so much to me"
We have all heard them, the words of endearment. The words that open the door to our hearts. Simple words when you think about it, but powerful words. Words that have to power to make you walk on clouds or sink to the depths of despair. How do we know the difference? How can we tell if these words are real or used in vain?
Well, we can't always. It depends on the charm and talent of the giver. Some people will shower us with words, shower us with praise and torture us with promises that are never kept. I don't know if they mean to be deceptive or are just cowardly. The result is the same. Another lie, another let down, another night of sleeplessness wondering where we failed, where we went wrong and how we could have prevented the heartbreak.
When will people learn, it is not the words that we say, it is the actions that we take. It is the physical part of those words that matter. No amount of precious words will ever take the place of being there, following through and showing who you really are through actions. As humans we are the most deceptive and devious creatures. We prey on each other. We prey on the vulnerable.
I will stand by my words. I won't promise you something I can't do or won't do. I won't tell you how special you are if you don't mean a thing to me. I will never say I love you if I don't have those feelings inside me.
It's sad and disheartening when those we trust and love deflate our dreams with their callous actions. It's a wound to the heart that we don't always recover from. If people would think before they speak and ask themselves how they would feel it might save one person from a broken heart. If only one. People don't think though unless they are thinking about the end result.
Skip the expensive jewelry and the trips to Hawaii. Yes, those are powerful shows of love that will thrill most women. But frequent small gifts will show her you love her just as much (if not more), without breaking the bank. Here are some ideas:
Love is a very strong emotion that can easily be shown in many different ways. Love can be expressed easily, that is why it is important to show love through actions and not just with words. Anyone can say, "I love you", without putting much thought into it. Showing love through actions can be easy but it does take some thought.
We can show our love for people we love through many different gestures. It only takes a few moments out of your day to perform a loving gesture but it can make your loved one's day. Actions take more effort that saying I love you. Loving gestures are easy actions you can do to show your love for someone.
Everyone wants to know that they are loved, it is important to express your love in as many ways as possible. Love is a unique feeling that should be easy to show. You should never look at doing actions out of love, as work. When you begin looking at loving actions as work you will be less likely to do them as often. Doing loving actions will help keep your love alive. It is important to work at a relationship in order to remain happy in your relationship.
It is important to show love through actions and not just words, in order to let your loved ones know just how much you love them. Loving actions show how much you care and love them much more than just saying I love you. Anyone can say I love you, it is special when someone takes the time to show that they love someone. Without loving actions, a relationship will likely not last. If you want a long lasting relationship, it is important that you show your love through actions and not just words. Saying I love you is wonderful and having actions to go along with the words is even better.
The words "I love you" mean nothing without showing action behind the words. So many people these days loosely say the words "I love you." One minute someone loves someone, then a week later they are telling someone else that they love them. It seems these days the meaning of true love has diminished in so many ways. Everyone searches for that ultimate feeling and when they feel good, they think it is love. Only to find that things fall apart and they are in another love situation.
Saying the words "I love you" means nothing unless you can show you truly love the person you are saying it to. This involves showing the person you love them through actions. Like the old saying goes, "actions speak louder than words." This is very true. In the scenario of a bad relationship, one person can treat the other person horribly then turn around and say, "I love you." Which is supposed to make things better, but it does not.
Showing someone you love them in the things you do, and how you treat them says more than any words can say. You can forget things people say but you never forget how they make you feel. Feeling loved by someone involves so much more than just the words. The touch of their hand, the laughter you share, the heart to heart talks, the time shared being good or bad. This all involves actions.
The words "I love you" mean so much more when you make the other person feel loved. It is not just a sentence thrown into the air that will make magic on its own between two people.
Even in the little things someone does for someone they love, can mean the world to someone. Don't just say I love you and think that is all it takes. It takes so much more than just three words. By doing little things, like opening their door, waiting up for them until the two of you can go to sleep for the evening, having a special evening planned out for the two of you even if staying indoors. These kinds of things are actions that show you love them.
If you think love is a sweet feeling, and all it takes is throwing three words in the air and nothing else? Then you probably are not in love. The action part of love just comes naturally. You want to do things with your partner that you do not have a desire to do with or for anyone else.
Love is the most wonderful feeling you can feel in a relationship. Some relationships it is hard work, some relationships it is natural and easy, but no relationship survives on just words.
Love is choice to unconditionally accept another person without qualification. It is the willingness to deal with both the flaws and strengths of another individual by your own free will because you choose to do so out of the way that this person makes you feel. Many people operate under the assumption that love is an emotion. Instead, love is a choice that result in positive emotional responses. If love every fades or fails over time, then in reality it was lust cleverly disguised as love. This is unfortunate because many people get into relationships based on emotional stimulation as opposed to the choice to unconditionally allow another person into their life with the hope of building future together.
Actions are more important than words where the issue of love is concerned, because actions take predetermination whereas words can often be used in the heat of the moment without any consideration given to the consequences of what the person will interpret the words to mean. Actions cause a person to put energy and thought into what they're going to do and why, words sometimes come forward without any consideration other than the split second benefit of what is being said.
True love requires a commitment to the constant improvement of a relationship between two people. It requires dedication, compromise and communication. It is selfless and self sacrificing, without concern for personal benefit. Motivation of every thought, action word and deed must be pure in the water order for love to remain true and honest.
Love requires patience, whereas lust is satisfied only through near instantaneous gratification. Love is not determined by conditions for circumstances, and can overcome every hardship that life can bring.
The person in love understands that it will be difficult at times and is willing to meet the challenges with brave courage and a spirit that cannot be broken. Love is a choice that requires being willing to lose anything and sometimes everything in order to see it completed. It is the strongest force in the entire universe and unfortunately very few people get to experience that energy current in its pure from because they choose to have selfish motivations instead.
Love is investment that requires constant maintenance to become real. It is not easy, but is the greatest gift that has ever been provided by the Creator of the universe to all of mankind. It is available for anyone that will pursue it, but takes a long time to reach full maturity.
APPLICATION TO FAMILY LIFE (Parents and Children Relationship)
Children need certain and specific things in their daily life for healthy growth and development: If these elements are an active part of their daily lives, they will begin to learn the meaning of valuing others, and behaving in ways that express their attitudes toward persons they don't always understand, or agree with - respect for themselves, and for others
1) Children need to be loved, and to love in return. It is important that they know they are the most important person in their parent's world. They need to be loved with an unselfish love that seeks the best for the child, and they need to know that the love they show their parents is accepted and cherished.
2) They need stability in their living environment, primarily the stability of their parents. They can be moved across continents and change schools and weather the adjustments, if Mom and Dad remain steadfast and are there.
3) Children need discipline. Discipline is more than punishment and consequences, although it may include these. Discipline suggests "discipling" our children to be like us. So to the degree a parent has reasonable love and respect for himself, or herself, this will be what the child learns. Disclpline involves teaching, training, encouragement, praise for tasks well done.
4) Children need consistency. They need to know what is expected of them and how to behave within the parameters set by the parents. They need to know what will happen if they choose to operate outside of those parameters. And they need their parents to consistently follow through with both rewards and consequences.
5) Children need to see, and be taught, values they will carry through their lives - honesty, truthfulness, compassion, integrity, a work ethic that will enable them to take care of themselves, eventually, respect for others, the difference between right and wrong behavior, and other important values parents hold dear.
Sounds like a formidable task for any parent, doesn't it? But respecting what a child needs in order to grow into a respectful human being involves paying attention to what a child needs during his growing up years in our home. Respecting a child means giving him, or her, the message that they matter. They are important. They need three important messages from their parents, that will speak of respect.
1) They need to hear they have value to us simply because they exist. "I love you because you are." They need to know that love is not given because of "what you do" that pleases me. They need love to endure when they do childish things that displease, or anger parents. They need to know their parent's love will never fail.
2) They need the message from us that we believe they are capable of "doing things," and that we know they can learn to do these things well. "I love the things you can do." They need encouragement to improve, do better, to learn. And they need praise when they have done something well - not necessarily to our adult standard, but having accomplished through hard work and paying attention something of value.
3) And they need to hear the message from their parents, "I love you too much to let you behave that way!" You are better than that behavior. I will help you learn what is acceptable and what is not." Bad behavior is different than a bad child. Parents need to be careful of the words they choose when disappointed with their child's behavior.
Parents are not perfect people. We may know all of the correct things to do, and fail to do them. We get tired, angry, frustrated - at ourselves, and at our children. Perhaps the greatest lesson in mutual respect between parent and child is when parents realize they have behaved badly, and humble themselves to apologize to their child - setting an example for the child in humility and forgiveness.
Most, if not all, children want to please their parents. They want their parents to be proud of them. But they also want to please themselves. (Sound like real human beings?) As our children grow older, and move into their teen years, they will sometimes behave as if we never taught them anything! Be patient. Be their parent. Be respectful of their growing independence, but continue to give them love, stability, discipline, consistency, and affirm the values you want them to hold. Choose not to see their need to separate as a statement of "I don't need you - or want you." Keep on being there, and require their respectful behavior.
Mutual respect recognizes that each of us is an individual with our own wants, hopes, dreams - even our young children. Mutual respect accepts that we won't always agree. Parents set the tone for mutual respect as they guide their children through their learning and growing years. The greatest joy of parents is receiving the honest respect of their adult children as they move on into their responsible lives.