Two weeks ago I was told that my oldest daughter had been killed in a car accident.

The shock was unbelievable. How does a mother accept such news and not go to pieces?

I held on to all the joy that my daughter brought into my life for 34 years and remembered my grandson, a wonderful gift she offered us and let the grief come and go as it would.

Taking care of funeral arrangements is so much work and when you add to that all the other stuff, packing her belongings, dealing with her bank, setting something up for her son.. the days blended into one long day.

Now I am much better and the healing is happening.  While I will miss her in her physical body, I am grateful for her being in my life and know that one day I will see her again.

I am now back to work and getting back to living.  When one passes over life seems to stand still or blend into long periods of time.  As I caught myself whistling the other day I knew I was ok.  I feel her presence and know that the love we shared is, like her, eternal.

Love light joy,

Donna

 

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I talk with lots of people every week who are caught up in a “tug of war”.

They just don’t know how to stop fighting against and resisting good in their lives.

Now they say they want all those good things; love, money, health, happiness, but they really don’t.

What they really want is what they are getting, a tug of war.

Most of us learned as children to say no just because we could.  Parents will remember the first 100 times their little one said “NO” to everything.

They resisted getting dressed, eating, following to the car, getting in and out of the car, on and on..

Little children do this as a way of understanding their power over themselves and their lives.  Knowing how to say no and mean it is a good thing.. unless you just don’t learn to say yes.

There is “only a stream of well being”, says Abraham.  This is all there is.

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I get that most people are not experiencing it.  What they are experiencing is lack and lots of it.

You don’t do it on purpose, you’re not really even aware of it.

Yet, you are still playing the game of tug of war, resisting abundance, loving relationships, health, wealth and happiness.

How? 

When you focus most of your attention on defending why something or someone is in your life.. you just ask for more of the same.

When you argue to be right rather than letting your desire for feeling good take priority, you are resisting.

We see this all around us, even in politics these days.  Rather than working together to solve a problem we create, politicians and individuals  would rather argue and prove themselves right.

Nothing is right about this.  Arguing just to be arguing is problem creation, not problem solving.

We humans have a tendency to create lots of “problems” for ourselves so that we can get a better idea of what we really do want to interact with.  These problems encourage us to reach higher, think differently and make exciting choices leading to exciting new “realities” to experience.

This is natural.  What’s working against us is when you don’t know when or how to stop problem creating and get on to the solution creating.

Ask yourself what would happen if you just let go easily.  How would you feel?  What would be the reaction of others if you stopped arguing, stopped fighting and just chose joy?

The choice is really whether you would rather be happy or be right..

If you can stop resisting long enough to discover what would happen if you chose joy over being right, you would discover a whole new energy to create your life with.

Needing to be right is the ego trying to gain power.  It reflects your insecurity and doubts about your self worth.

Being happy says that you are ok with you, you know how wonderful, powerful, creative and worthy you are. 

What’s your choice?

 

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America now has a brand new economic recovery plan. There’s even a website where you can track the progress of how well it’s working. Combined with the energy of change and hope, lots of work and planning have gone into this new method of growth for our nation.

Now, let me ask you, have you written your recovery plan?

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We all have a list of things that we would like to accomplish, dreams, goals and visions of success.

Perhaps you even hope for a wonderful relationship, a new job, car, better family relationships.

You have the problem, you know the issues.

BUT have you written your recovery plan out?

Your recover plan is the action you plan to take to bring your dreams into reality.

Hope is a wonderful and power thing, but it needs legs, feet and hands to produce change.

As a coach I get tickled when people come to me asking how they can live the life of their dreams when they are not prepared to take responsibility for or change a single thing in the way they think or do.

Change comes about by making new choices and doing new things, or at least doing the old things in a different way.

You never learned to do anything by reading about it, talking it over, and dreaming of doing it. You learned by getting the information and DOING.

Doing is necessary for change. It’s not going to come about by just dreaming, wishing, hoping and thinking in positive affirmations. These things are all wonderful and part of the process, but they are not complete without some doing.

Get out your paper and pencil. Write out a new recovery plan for your life. Be detailed, exact in what you want to experience.

Make note of the thought processes, expectations and beliefs you need to shift in order to line up your vibration with the vibration of what you want.

Now go one step further and pass your bill into law. Take ACTION.. different action that what led you to where you are. New ACTION will lead you into a new place.

You will succeed when you write and act on your story of success.

 

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Whether you're ready or not a new year has arrived. With all it's promise and hope, we have begun a new calendar year.

This is the perfect time to clear the clutter from your home and your life to make sure that 2009 flows the way you want it to.

371d36d75e05eda735858f8e467be99cWhether you're ready or not a new year has arrived. With all it's promise and hope, we have begun a new calendar year.

This is the perfect time to clear the clutter from your home and your life to make sure that 2009 flows the way you want it to.

Living in one place for a long time we tend to gather lots of things that eventually get stuck in drawers and the back of closets, taking up space and filling our homes with “clutter energy”.

Clutter Energy is that feeling of unease that seems to be saying, “do something, anything, just DO Something”!

Starting off the new year by clearing out this energy opens the door for a more positive flow of feelings, thoughts and new things to move in.

Start of by committing to release at least 50 things in a 24 hour period.

I know that sounds like a lot, but once you get going you'll discover that it's quick and easy.

Get two boxes or garbage bags, fill one with items that you can donate if you like and the other is just trash.

Start in the “junk drawer” in the kitchen. How much stuff have you crammed there thinking you would eventually use it and never have? Release it and enjoy the feeling that comes with letting go.

Move on to other drawers in the kitchen. Release old butter tubs that you just have too many of.

Got more coffee cups than the cabinets can hold? Let these go as well.

Go through the rest of the house letting go of magazines, stashes of papers and the like.

Next get into your room. Do you have clothes that don't fit, you don't like and haven't worn in over a year? Let em go.

Dig through the closet and the drawers. All socks with holes go into the bag. Undies that ride or scratch, into the bag.

Let go of shoes too. We tend to hold onto things because, “I paid good money for those”, or “someone gave these to me”.

Let yourself breathe.

As you do the clearing out of physical things from your space be aware of thoughts and habits that you have that don't serve you as well. Are you still holding onto grudges and old hurts and insults?

Let these go as you move through the house releasing stuff.

When you have your fifty items in 24 hours and are still on a roll, commit to another fifty. Take on the garage, holiday decorations, etc. Move through the yard and release anything that's just taking up space and not giving you that feel good feeling it did when you first placed it there.

By doing this exercise you are not only creating a better look and feel to your home, you are opening your life to release old emotions, pain and stinking thinking.

When you combine the physical exercise of clearing out stuff with the spiritual aspect of clearing out thinking and feelings, you will restore balance and harmony in your life.

By instilling this process into your thinking for the new year, you will be less likely to hold onto excess stuff and hurtful feelings, letting go much easier and cluttering up your energy much less.

Happy New Year.. create each day with joy!

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Do you ever feel that way? You just work and struggle and fight, yet.. it only gets worse.
What are you struggling with right now?
Let’s list a few of human beings favorite things to struggle with.
Weight
Money
Relationships
Jobs
Peace of mind
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As a spiritual life coach I hear from a lot of people who don't feel validated They are suffering with low self esteem, feeling low and unsuccessful. This is not a good way to feel. Waking up in the morning with nothing to look forward to, nothing that excites you and gets your juices flowing just isn't living, it's surviving.

You are not here to just survive, to manage, to get through one more set of challenges.

You are here to Thrive... to be happy, to enjoy each moment of your physical existence.

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I know the feeling, I've been there. One of the reasons I don't go there now is I don't like the way it feels. I bet you don't like feeling low and down either. We are Beings of joy, love, happiness and pleasure. We thrive on feeling good. We are at our eternal best when we are excited, inspired and motivated.

You know you want to feel good. You strive and struggle to get into that place of joy and excitement about life. Sometimes you make it and sometimes you just can't seem to reach that far.

Here's what I want you to do starting right now. Validate yourself. That's right I want you to validate yourself.

Out loud I want you to say three things that you really like about yourself. Go ahead, say I have beautiful eyes, delightful hair, my body is perfect for me.

Say them again. You can use something different from the examples I give.

Now think of three more things you really appreciate about yourself.

I love my sense of humor, my smile is awesome, I am very loving.

Say it again, a bit louder. You are validating yourself and it's really important.

You are a wonderful, powerful, creative, magical being. Sometimes you just to to be reminded of it.

You are talented, giving, generous, caring, motivating, inspiring, wise, funny, loving and strong.

Go ahead and say those things about yourself. Validate yourself some more. It's good for you.

We talk a lot about the attitude of gratitude. It's wonderful and powerful, yet it's only a step in the direction of appreciation. Appreciation is the vibration of the Creative Source of which you are a part. You can't severe your tie from Source Energy, that's who you are. You can however stop being aware of the connection. This is where the validation comes in. It's a means of feeling the connection. Getting you back in line with who you are rides the wave of appreciation. Using the tools of self validation several times each day will help you to see yourself as you really are.

You have many dreams that you haven't brought into physical for yet because you don't believe in the dreams and you don't believe in yourself. Through self validation you will be able to tear down that wall of limiting beliefs and move through with inspired action.

Now I want you to make a list of all the things you've achieved in the past week.

Write down every goal you've accomplished for the week. Include everything you can think of from the little to the large.

Allow yourself to feel good about these accomplishments.

Say out loud, I accomplish my goals and bring my dreams into reality. I am a powerful creator, following inspiration with motivated action.

Now take the list to a month.

Go for six months, then a year. This is a powerful exercise to do at the end and the beginning of each New Year. It's also a great boost when you are feeling stuck.

Everyone feels a bit low now and then. We tend to let our emotions be in charge of what we are thinking and thus how we feel. Through the process of these exercises you can bust loose anything and move into a better feeling energy.

I encourage you to do the validation exercise first thing each morning. You will find that it empowers you with joy, hope, and belief in yourself.

If you really want to boost the energy quickly set aside 15 minutes to do an appreciate exercise.

Start off by letting your eyes move around the room until something catches your attention that really pleases you. Say out loud I am so appreciative of _____________.

Move on to the next thing in the room, look outside and see what pleases you. In just a few minutes this will take on a life of it's own as things to appreciate flow quicker and quicker to your awareness.

Through self validation and Appreciation exercises you will quickly transform your feelings, your thoughts and in a short time your physical experiences.

I want you to know just how beautiful, gifted, talented, important, loved, and inspiring you really ARE.

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I am baffled when people excuse hate filled messages by claiming “freedom of speech”.

It is a wonderful gift to live in a nation that protects our right to speak out openly and passionately on our opinions and beliefs.

I don't think however, that this right was ever intended as an excuse to use language to promote hate, fear, or violence.

It seems to me that freedom of speech is better used to share wisdom, insights and personal experiences that lift up the whole of humanity and bring us closer together rather than tearing us further apart.

It concerns me when I hear people in America using their wonderful freedom of speech to promote hatred towards others for a difference of religion or preference of political party.

How did we get so confused on what freedom is? How did we come to think that speaking out in hatred and violence empowers us to higher levels of freedom.

Empowerment comes not from hateful words or violent acts, rather from a centered place within where you realize your connection to All That Is. Your experience of love and kindness makes you strong.

Fear and hatred make you weak, it makes you afraid.

Fear and hate always weaken us and push us further apart in our ideas and our being able to accept that we are all children of the same Energy, brothers and sisters sharing the same planet.

I see mothers in stores popping their children to “make them behave” and have to wonder why they think violence towards their small children is effective. It only teaches children that when you feel frustrated and don't know what else to do, you reach out and hurt someone you love.

As women, mothers, sisters; let;s empower ourselves through words of kindness, thoughts of understanding and acts of love rather than staying in the place of a false sense of security that fear gives us.

True freedom, is more than being able to say whatever you want, it's releasing yourself from fear and living fully who you are. Freedom and personal empowerment promotes well being, prosperity, love, success and growth of acceptance and understanding.

Be Free in every area of your life experience by choosing thoughts and actions that lead to the betterment of All.

You are free, you can be nothing else. There is nothing to fear and fear only promotes more to fear. It's the law of attraction at work. Living free from fear and hatred is your right, this is the better feeling option. It spreads Oneness and a sense of community and togetherness which heals and inspires all who come in contact with you to live their Best Self as well.

Open your heart, then open your mind and allow everyone to be free to think and believe even when it's not in line with your truth. By choosing to live free, you are a light to the world and an inspiration that others will follow.

Walk in peace, think in kindness, share in love.. make a difference that catches on and lifts us all higher.

Affirmations for the day

I am an instrument of peace.

Love flows through me and touches the world

Kindness is my companion.

I am free to express my brilliance

Joy is my expression

Empowerment is the result of expressing who I really Am

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Perhaps you are wondering why you are here. What's the reason for your life, what are you Supposed to Do.

Most of us go through this process of trying to understand why we are here, the purpose for our life and what we are meant to do. Some seem to naturally know and follow some inner drummer which leads them into bliss and expressions of a joyful life.

You may be one of those who don't, and that's OK.

You are here for a reason. You didn't just randomly pop into a body to live a life of boredom and experience a lack of fulfillment.

Discovering your life purpose is really quite easy with just a few steps.

Be honest about this next part, write your answers down and be complete in your thoughts.

When I was a child I really loved__________________

As a child I felt really connected to ________________________

When I grew up I knew I wanted to __________________________

I have always been interested in _______________________

I'm really good at __________________________

People tell me I should _____________________

My hobbies are ____________________________

You have natural gifts and talents, everyone does. There is something that you do naturally well. Perhaps it's cooking, understanding others easily, creating new technology, working with children, seniors, creating artwork, writing.

By taking inventory of your activities and dreams you will gain insight into this area of your life.

Think back to when you were little and full of dreams and desires. Allow that energy to move through your subconscious and work itself to your conscious mind.

Get in touch with your desires, your joy, your dreams and move with that flow.

You do have a gift, you do have a dream, a desire to do something. Your desire, like you is a special gift to the world.

Take to heart your joys and your bliss, follow these. No matter what others may have told you or may tell you now Live Your Dreams.

By going with what you enjoy and what you are naturally drawn to you can enhance your talents and build up your gifts. Sharing from your heart allows others to be blessed as well as the wonderful feeling you get from being true to yourself and following the path of joy.

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Affirmations for knowing your purpose;

The more I get to know myself, the clearer my purpose becomes.

My unique gifts and talents make a difference in the lives of others.

I follow my joy and share my bliss with others.

My only limit is what I say it is.

My purpose is to live fully and completely with joy and love.

My journey leads me to deeper understanding and love of myself.

I share the gift of myself with the world, all my joy, love, wisdom and passion.

Living my dreams encourages others to live their dreams too.

My life is a gift to all who come into contact with me.

Living joyfully inspires others to live joyfully.

I give myself permission to explore and express every aspect of my wonderful self.

You have a dream.

Everyone has dreams.

You look around and see so many who have made their dreams come true and yet yours doesn't seem to be going anywhere.

. Perhaps you are feeling discouraged and frustrated. You've had this dream for years and thought about it over and over. You've tried and failed so many times that you are ready to give up.

Good. Now you are ready to take some positive steps forward.

You know how to not create your dream, you've done things that didn't work. You are now ahead of the game. You already have a long list of actions that you know don't work.

Because you've already processed through many failures you are closer to your dream now than you've ever been.

When Edison was working on the light bulb he failed thousands of times. His comment was that he knew thousands of ways not to make a light bulb. He didn't give up, he didn't quit. He used each failure as the jumping off place for the next idea.

Perhaps you have listened to others tell you that failure is a “bad” thing so many times that you've adopted it as your own belief.

Failure is a matter of perspective. It's all in how you look at it. You can stop trying and certainly fail, or use your failures to motivate you to try the next thing.

No one has ever failed or succeeded without giving it a go first. As long as you do nothing, little happens. It's only when you are willing to learn from your failed actions and move forward with the next step that you find yourself living your dream.

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Failure is actually a blessing. It says to you, “keep going, try something else”. You've got an idea, you know the next steps. You know what doesn't work. Take another action and see where it leads. As long as you are moving forward you are getting closer to your dream.

Giving up and setting limiting beliefs are the only things standing in your way.

I recently watched a video by a guy with no arms and no legs. He talked about limits all being in your head. He didn't see himself as limited, rather he saw opportunity to do things a different way. This young man is very successful because he just doesn't believe in limits. He believes in opportunity.

Every thing is your life is another opportunity to do something a bit differently than it's been done before.

Shift your thinking and keep taking action. Your dreams are much closer than you think.

Affirmations for courage and belief in yourself.

Write these down. Read them out loud several times a day. They will help you reprogram your thinking and in turn attract the experience of success into your life.

I can master anything with enough practice

I am totally capable of accomplishing my dreams.

I am grateful for each failure, failure paves the road to success.

I always look for and get excited by a new way of doing something.

I know that if I can dream it, I can do it.

I trust my inner guidance to lead me always forward.

Each step takes me closer to my goals.

I let go of fear and move forward to victory.

Through intuition and belief, I steadily move forward.

I trust my inner guidance to lead me.

My gifts and talents bless the world and lift others up.

Gratitude is the energy that always leads to success.

It's all illusion, everything, every bit of it. No matter what you are experiencing right now it's illusion.

It's only real in your head. It's all a bunch of vibrating energy molecules moving to and fro giving the illusion of being a real situation.

This illusion is wonderful when you've co created something you enjoy and find pleasant. “ Feel good” hormones rush through your body and you are in love with life. It feels good and you desire more of it.

If, however what you have co created isn't very pleasing to you and it does feel real.. different chemicals and emotional reactions are rushing through your body. You feel frightened, worried, anxious, in a rush to do something to change things.

Resistance is futile. The more you fight, push, pull and resist the present situation the bigger it gets. The stronger it feels and the more stress and worry you experience.

What to do?

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First acknowledge that's it illusion. It's energy, nothing more, nothing less. It's also your creation. See how powerful you are? Look what you created, now that's power.

The same power that you used to create your present circumstances you can also use to create something different.

You might be saying right about now, “it sure looks and feels real”. Have you ever watched images on a wall put there by a projector? They look real, movies and TV look real too. They are not, they are mirror images of something else.. thought.. feelings..

In order for you to create something different than what you are now experiencing you just have to think and feel differently.

Stop for just a moment and think about something really pleasant. Think about how good a hug feels, remember a recent hug that really warmed your heart.

Now, you've just created something different than what you were experiencing a moment ago.

This is the process that we all follow all the time. We think, we empower the thoughts with feeling and passion, thinking them and feeling them over and over again until we call them into form.

When you shift your thoughts and your feelings, you shift reality. You begin the process of calling into your experience that which you believe you will experience.

We've all done it many times. Ever think of someone and in just a little bit the phones rings and that person is on the phone?

When you begin to realize that the present is the result of past thoughts, emotions and beliefs, you are empowered with understanding that in order to change your experiences you simply shift your thought and beliefs.. your expectations.

Whatever your present circumstance, it's a wonderful teacher showing you how creation, reality works.

Look at the situation and trace back your part in it. What thoughts, beliefs, expectations did you use to bring it into form?

Now that you know how you did it, simply use that same principle to create another physical illusion of reality.

Start right where you are. Begin by shifting your thoughts and feelings about the present. Rather than being worried and stressed, be thankful for the lesson this brings you. Be grateful for the insight and understanding you now have because of this situation.

As you change how you think and feel about the present continue that energy into what you really would like to experience. What are you desiring? Think it, feel it, follow inspired action to bring it into your physical illusion of reality.

You know you can do it, you just saw how powerful you really are.