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    Marriage: His Way Or The Highway

    Tuesday, September 9, 2014, 9:39 AM [General]

    God is the author of marriage. And as long as you set your benchmarks about what marriage ought to be based on what’s going on in the world, you’ll never get it right.

     

    In His wisdom, God gave married couples two basic instructions: Wives, submit to your husbands. Husbands, love your wife as you love yourself. (Ephesians 5)

     

    The reason most people break out into a rash and can’t get anything out of that text is because they get fixated on the word “submit” without understanding what it truly means.

     

    By saying “submit”, God is not suggesting that you ought to act like a slave. That’s the devil trying to twist things up in your mind to keep you from seeing the light. What God is really suggesting is that you should love and reverence your husband to such a degree that anytime you want to go to the store and your husband says, “I think it’s better we stay indoors”, you should calm yourself down and say alright, “Let’s stay home if that’s what you want to do…coz wherever you are that’s where I want to be.”

     

    God also challenges the husband to love his wife such that anytime she wants to do something he is not too eager about, he should not get his knickers in a bind and beat his wife up emotionally…or physically. Rather, he should say: “Alright, sweetheart, if that’s what you want to do today, then that’s what we’ll do.”

     

    God wants us to understand that marriage is about love and sacrifice. Every time you crucify what you want to do and what you want to say on the cross and calm yourself down, you are making a sacrifice.

     

    Every time you want to yell at your spouse and kids, but then you say: “No, I will NOT lose it today,” you are making a sacrifice. And that sort of sacrifice is acceptable to God, for it rises up to Him like sweet smelling incense.

     

    By choosing to shut yourself up, you are essentially saying to your spouse, “You are important to me.” You are expressing love. And marriages that are predicated on that kind of love last forever. God is the author of marriage. You can either do it His Way or take the highway.

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    Jesus - The Only Way???

    Tuesday, May 6, 2014, 6:07 AM [General]

    Why do people say that Jesus is the only way to God? Is He really? Let’s try and break this down and get to the core of this ideology.

     

    Everything good thing that comes from God is a gift. In other words, it is free. You don't have to pay for your blessings. We know that.

     

    Not to be outdone, the devil also offers us all kinds of things – drugs, alcohol, porn, etc. – and these are all bad. Now, just as you can’t walk into a store, pick up whatever you want and leave without paying, you cannot take what the devil has to offer and expect to leave without any consequences. Sin will cost you your life in this world and your soul in the next. It’s the ultimate price.

     

    Even though we do not completely grasp this, to God and the devil, our soul is priceless. That’s why God stepped in to pay the ransom for our release. Now, one sinner cannot pay the price for another sinner because they are both indebted. So, in exchange for us, God ransomed Jesus. Life for life. The good life for the bad. The sinless for the sinful. It’s an awesome deal.

     

    There is only one hitch – You. The deal is not complete until you sign the dotted line.

     

    Let me put it this way. Let’s suppose you owe the bank a lot of money and cannot pay them back. The bank has the right to initiate legal action against you and you could be imprisoned. But if someone goes over to the bank and pays your outstanding debt, you are legally free. The only thing you need to do is agree that the money was credited on your behalf. But if you say something like: “Oh, I don't know. Maybe that money was paid for someone else, not me,” then, the bank has the right to continue holding you in prison.

     

    To experience freedom from sin and its consequences, you have to first agree that the price that Jesus paid on the Cross was for your release. When you acknowledge that, the devil has no legal hold over you. You are free. Now, you can do two things with this freedom: a) you could go back to your old way of life and become indebted and imprisoned again; or b) you could choose to relinquish your old ways and start life anew.

     

    The best way to start a new life is to make Jesus your protector. When you do that, He puts His mark on you and sends the Holy Spirit into your heart to counsel, lead and guide you in the right direction and keep you safe from the enemy’s evil designs.

     

    With Jesus by your side and the Spirit of God within you, there is absolutely nothing you can’t do. Your Salvation is guaranteed. The door to heaven is thrown open to you and you place in eternity is sealed.

     

    It’s a win-win deal. And it all starts with a choice. Do you accept that Jesus paid the price for your sin? If you do, just pray this simple prayer:

     

    Dear God in heaven, I come to you in the name of Jesus. I acknowledge to You that I am a sinner, and I am sorry for my sins and the life that I have lived; I need your forgiveness.


    I believe that your only begotten Son Jesus Christ shed His precious blood on the cross at Calvary and died for my sins, and I am now willing to turn from my sin.

     

    This very moment I accept Jesus Christ as my own personal Savior and according to His Word, I am now saved.


    Thank you Jesus for your unlimited grace which has saved me from my sins. Thank you for dying for me and giving me eternal life.
    Amen.

     

    If you just said this prayer and you meant it with all your heart, you just got saved and are born again. Get into a Bible-based church, study God's Word, and enjoy your new-found freedom in Jesus.

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    Never Despise Small Beginnings

    Tuesday, February 25, 2014, 3:39 AM [General]

    When I married Sharel in April 2009, I started below zero. I renounced the comforts of my parents’ home and the few possessions I had because when I read the scripture: Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh, I interpreted it literally.

     

    The day before I got married, I left my home with just one suitcase. Sharel did the same. For the first few weeks as a married couple, we lived out of two suitcases, trusting everything else to divine providence. We did not have much of anything, except for each other and our faith in God.

     

    Today, we live with our two wonderful children in our own 2 bedroom home. We have everything we need and everything we want. I learnt through my own experience that God honors those who honor Him and blesses those who obey His commands. In retrospect, I believe God meant for all of us to take His word literally. I also learnt that we should never despise small beginnings. This is my testimony. This is what God did for me. And I am ever so grateful.  

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    Married for Life

    Monday, February 17, 2014, 4:20 AM [General]

    Every marriage should be based on love and commitment, and not on feelings...coz feelings are temporal. You cannot bring a "let's try this out and see if it works” attitude to marriage. That's what the film stars do. And when the going gets tough – like it often does – they back out and go looking for someone else to marry. And they do it again and again.

     

    Perfect marriages take a lot of work. Mostly because we are imperfect – all of us. But if you hang on to God, the perfect embodiment of perfect love, your marriage can become perfect too. Jesus can make you the man you ought to be. So, if you can’t do nothing about it, just stand still and pray about it. Take your marriage to Jesus. God always creates a way…when we pray.

     

    The greatest attack today is on the institution of marriage. We must be prepared to fight the “easy come, easy go” mentality of this fast food age. Take a moral stand for the sake of our spouse and your children. And be prepared to slug it out.

     

    Yes, there will be arguments, strife and all sorts of unpleasant things. But you don’t consider changing your parents every time you disagree with them, do you? Why not? Because you are bound to them by blood? Well, for the same reason, you cannot divorce your spouse. Ever. Because when you marry, the two of you, both  in essence and literally, become one. And what God has joined, man must not divide.

     

    Perfect marriages take a lot of work. Just because the grass seems greener on the other side does not mean it does not have to be mowed. No, Sir. You marry once. And you marry for life.

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    Choices

    Thursday, February 13, 2014, 3:52 AM [General]


    You’ve probably heard it said that “destinies are tied to decisions”. Oftentimes, destinies are also determined by indecision. To not decide is to decide not to. For instance, if you had a ticket to fly to New York and you are undecided about whether or not you want to go, eventually the plane will leave without you and the decision will have been made. Time will decide for you. And time will always decide against you.

    That’s why the Bible warns: Be hot or cold, for if you are lukewarm, I will spit you out. (Revelation 3:16) In fact, this is precisely why Joshua warned the Israelites: “And if it seem evil unto you to serve the Lord, choose you this day whom ye will serve; whether the gods which your fathers served that were on the other side of the flood, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land ye dwell: but as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.” (Joshua 24:15)


    Joshua made his choice. He knew that the only way to defeat Satan was to make an alliance with God. It is wise to make the strongest power in the cosmos your ally. You’ve got to choose your camp. And middle ground is not an option. You cannot stay in the middle and expect Satan not to attack you…because he will.

     

    God saves all those who are His. If you choose God, He will put His mark on you – the mark of the Blood of Jesus. This mark is invisible to human eyes, but can be clearly seen by both angels and demons. It will cause Satan to give you a wide berth because the only thing he cannot stand, the only thing he fears is the Blood of Jesus. It wears him out—every time.

     

    The only way to defeat Satan is to get down on your knees, lift your hands up and pray. It’s a posture of both surrender (to God) and attack (against the enemy). When you submit to God, He fights for you. And when the battle belongs to the Lord, victory is guaranteed.

     

    Which camp do you belong to? Whom will you serve? Make your choice today. Choose God.


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    Your Family Is Not Out to Get You...Satan Is

    Thursday, October 3, 2013, 11:25 AM [General]

    The greatest attack today is on the institution of family. And I am not just referring to marriages, but also the relationship between parents and children.

    I know many people who consider their parents to be their greatest enemies.

    The devil likes that.

    He knows that you cannot be a good parent yourself, or a good spouse if you do not first have a healthy relationship with your parents.

    When Satan wants to puncture a relationship, he usually starts with a nightmare. He’ll work on your soul when you are asleep, causing you to dream that your dad or spouse is doing something hurtful to you. When you wake up the next morning, you are obviously upset.

    Satan is the father of lies. Once he sees that you are sufficiently upset, he’ll whisper something like “You know why you are suffering? It’s because of your dad.”

    Your first reaction is obviously, “What nonsense!”

    But he’ll keep saying the same thing again and again.

    Satan: “Your dad is your main problem”

    You: That’s not true

    Satan: “Your dad is your main problem”

    You: “No way”

    Satan: “Your dad is your main problem”

    You: “That’s bullshit”

    Satan: “Your dad is your main problem”

    You:….

    Satan: “Your dad is your main problem”

    You: ...

    Satan: “Your dad is your main problem”

    You: hmmm…

    Satan: “Your dad is your main problem”

    You: …

    Satan: “Your dad is your main problem”

    You: Yeah, he can be a jerk sometimes

    Satan: “Your dad is your main problem”

    You: He is a f#%*@#

    Satan: “Your dad is your main problem”

    The devil goes on and on…day after day. When somebody speaks a lie a 100 times, it eventually starts sounding like the truth. You start believing the lie. Once you are convinced that your dad is the enemy, you subconsciously start resenting him. Eventually, you start hating him. And just like that a relationship is destroyed.

    Satan is spirit. He never tires. He knows he can break through our resistance eventually, and he is persistent. He can and will wear you down.

    Once he has destroyed one relationship, he will move to the next until all your primary relationships are in the dumps. Then, he moves closer for the kill. Because what he really wants is to destroy you. It is easier for Satan to destroy you once he has got you away from the pack.

    Look at the people who are given to drugs, crime and prostitution. You will find that most of them had difficult relationships with their parents when they were quite young.

     The only way to defeat Satan is to make an alliance with God. It is wise to make the strongest power in the cosmos your ally. You got to choose your camp. And middle ground is not an option. You cannot stay in the middle and expect Satan not to attack you….coz he will. God only saves those who are His. That’s why the Bible says either be hot or be cold; if you are lukewarm, you will be lost. (Revelation 3:15,16)  If you don’t stand for something, you will fall for everything.

    If you choose God, He will put His mark on you. This mark is invisible to human eyes, but can be clearly seen by both angels and demons. It will cause Satan to give you a wide berth. But if you stray too far from God, he will start whispering again.

    When he does that, the only way to recover is to whisper back. You must invoke the Name that is above every other name. The enemy simply can’t stand that. This is usually how victory unfolds.

    Satan: “Your dad is your main problem”

    You: No. That is a lie.

    Satan: “Your dad is your main problem”

    You: I will never believe that.

    Satan: “Your dad is your main problem”

    You: Get away from me…

    Satan: “Your dad is your main problem”

    You: The Blood of Jesus

    Satan: “Your dad is your main problem”

    You: The Blood of Jesus

    Satan: “Your dad is your main…”

    You: The Blood of Jesus

    Satan: “Your dad is…

    You: The Blood of Jesus

    Satan: “Your dad…

    You: The Blood of Jesus

     Satan: “You…

    You: The Blood of Jesus

    Satan: Stop it!

    You: The Blood of Jesus

    Satan: StoPPP!!!

    You: The Blood of Jesus

    Satan: Aaargh!

    You: The Blood of Jesus

    Satan:…

    Usually, around this point, Satan is on the run…coz the only thing he cannot stand, the only thing he fears is the Blood of Jesus. It wears him out….every time.

    That’s why the only way to defeat Satan is to get down on your knees, lift your hands up and pray.

    It’s a posture of both surrender (to God) and attack (against the enemy).

    When you submit to God, he fights for you. And when the battle belongs to the Lord, victory is guaranteed.

     

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    No Regrets

    Thursday, September 12, 2013, 11:23 AM [General]

    David was a poor shepherd boy. But his thoughts, words and deeds pleased God. And so God was pleased to make David a king. His son Solomon eventually became the richest man in the world. Yet, it did not happen overnight. My journey with Lord has only just begun...and already i am better off than before.



    It is quite easy for the Lord to prosper a man. He did it for Abraham. He did it for Joseph. He did it for David. He did it for Solomon. He is doing it for me. And He can do it for you too.


    Just turn to Him. You won't regret it ever.

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    What will your last words be?

    Thursday, September 12, 2013, 4:27 AM [General]

    I was a rebel.

     

    I rebelled against everything God stood for...

     

    Rebelled against God Himself...

     

    I told God flat out that:

     

    a) "Look, I am sure You even exist; and

    b) Even if you do, I want You out of my life."

     

    "I'm doing alright without You. So thanks, but no thanks. Do whatever You must, but just freaking leave me alone."

     

    And that was that...or so I thought.

     

    Thing is, my life was a mess. It looked all fine and dandy on the outside, but it was crap on the inside.

     

    I was drowning and I didn’t even know it. I needed help -- badly.

     

    I needed God.

     

    But I was too proud. Too proud to ask.

     

    Thankfully, God did not wait for me to figure Him out.

     

    As soon as the water ran over my head, He sent his angels to dive right in after me and rescue me. 

     

    He lifted me up and set me high above on solid rock.

     

    And so I live. On higher ground. And the view from up here is simply amazing. Things that did not make sense before are crystal clear now.

     

    I realize now that there is only one way to make life on earth worthwhile. You got to make peace with the Landlord.

     

    Amazingly, He wants that too.

     

    So, here's my advice. If the world is giving you hell, tune the world out. Tune in to God.

     

    Make peace with Him. Even if it is the last thing you do before you die, reach out your hand to heaven.

     

    That's what the thief they hung with Jesus did. He was a rebel too. But just before he died, He looked at Jesus and said, "Please remember me." And Jesus said "I will. Today, you'll be with me in paradise."

     

    This is what I'll be saying just before I die:

     

    "Dear God, I lived as a rebel on this beautiful earth You created. And now it is time for me to go. But I didn't want to leave without telling you this.

    Thank You.

    Thanks for being so good to me. Thanks for blessing me so greatly. This was a good ride. I had a good time. Thanks for watching over me and taking me in. Please watch over the ones I leave behind too. And for all the wrong I did, I am so sorry. I know You better now…and I love You.”

     

    What will you tell God just before you die?

     

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    Love & Free Will

    Wednesday, September 4, 2013, 8:29 AM [General]

    God has given every man free will to determine his destiny. This free will gives man the right to even reject the very God that created him and gave him this right. God, being the gentleman He is, will never infringe on a man’s right to choose what he wants to believe. However, this free will also comes with a rider. If you make choices of your own accord, then you alone are liable for all the consequences that arise thereof.

    So, for example, if you choose to smoke like a chimp, drink like an elephant and live recklessly, you cannot blame God or anybody else when your health takes a turn for the worse. Your health is your responsibility.  

    If you borrow money to buy things you don't need and never save for a rainy day, you should not blame God if you end up bankrupt and broke. Your lifestyle is your responsibility.

     

    Similarly, if you spend all your time away from home, ignoring your wife and kids, you should not blame God or anybody else if your marriage ends up in the alley. It is your responsibility to make your marriage work.

    Back in the day, I was a rebel. I used to take credit for all the good in my life and blame God for all the bad. I made some extremely poor choices in my life—we all do—and I paid dearly for them. When I look back now, I see clearly that through all the adversities and strife, God has always been (and still is) my greatest ally. Even when I was being a total jerk, telling God I’d be better off if He would just f#@}!#g leave me alone, He did not abandon me… coz a true parent never abandons a child. I was playing with fire and living on the edge. And all the while, God was right there with His hand gently behind my back to break my fall and ensure I wouldn't land too hard.  

    God’s like that.

    I can imagine God and His angels looking down on me from heaven and shaking their heads.

    “That kid is going to get himself killed,” God says, “We better do something quickly.”


    “Well, Sir, we can’t. Remember that free will contract you signed?” an angel replies.

    “Oh! Yeah! I should have never done that,” God says.

    “Well, you did leave a clause there saying ‘if a man calls out to You for help, we can jump right in.’”


    “Yes! We can. Jump in right now and save him,” God orders.


    “Um, there is just one small technical problem, Sir… he is not calling out for help—none of them are. They think You don't exist,” the angel says.

    “What?! Well, I don't care what they think. I am not going to let them die on my watch. Save that kid anyways. I want him with me for eternity,” God commands.

    And just like that, I got saved. Love and Mercy prevailed over the law.

    When you are on God’s heart, He will send His angels to watch over you night and day. And if you ever run into trouble, He will order His angels to jump right in and rescue you, even if you don't call out for help.

    God’s love us unconditionally. And that’s how He expects us to love each other too.

     

    Unconditional Love: God likes that… coz God’s like that.

     

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    Kids: Your Responsibility | Your Reward

    Wednesday, August 21, 2013, 5:35 AM [General]

    I got a call from an e-learning institute yesterday. They wanted to know if I’d be interested in enrolling my son for any of their “special” courses.

    Well, not really,” I responded, “coz my son is just three-and-a-half.”

    Well, sir, this course is for kids 6 months and above,” the woman on the phone  explained.

    Um, okay. Not interested.”


    But why?! We’ll teach your child to read, write, and it will be a very engaging experience for him. Most importantly, his IQ will improve significantly,” she persisted.

    Well, I am sure your course is as good as you claim it is, but I am not very keen to raise my son’s IQ at this age. And as far as reading and writing go, I am sure he’ll pick it up when the time is right.

    That is true, sir, but your son won’t have a competitive advantage,” she corrected me.

    Well, ma’am, I understand where you are coming from. But I am going in a completely different direction with regard to how kids should be raised. I am not eager to have my son compete with other kids in any sort of rat race. At his age, I’d rather he just enjoy being a child.

    She finally got the message and hung up. But the gist of what she said lingered in my mind. Was I being unfair to my kid by not letting him gain any sort of advantage in a competitive world? I debated that in my mind for a while and discussed it with my wife when I got back home. We had decided long ago that we wouldn't let our children be sucked into the rat race like we were. We decided to stick with that.

    I am not at all undermining the value of education—yes, it is important. However, the school can only teach a child about the world around him. It is a parent’s responsibility to show a child how to live and breathe and walk confidently in that world. We parents have the power to influence our child’s character, his thoughts and views positively. However, we only have a small window of opportunity to do that. Once that window closes, it is hard to open it again. Then, the world takes over. Whatever a child absorbs at a young age remains with him forever. That’s why the Bible advises: “Train a child in the way that he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.” (Proverbs 22:6)

    There are two lasting gifts you can give your kids: one is wings, the other is roots. Your decisions today will shape your child’s tomorrow. Give your child the best education you possibly can. But please remember that education is not a substitute for good character. Education may help your child earn a lot of money, but it may not help him spend it wisely. Education may help your child land a good job and find a good spouse, but it cannot guarantee a happy life or a happy marriage. In my personal opinion, character formation is the primary duty of every parent. These are your kids. Don’t expect the school or anybody else to raise them up for you. They are your responsibility. And if you raise them well, they will be your reward.

    Want your kids to be special? Be a special parent.

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