So many Chrsitians become judgmental, critical, biased, bigoted and avoident of those that they consider to be unclean or sinful.
There is a quote in scripture where the believers are condemend for saying "do not touch, I am too holy for you."
Your personal holiness or relationship and status is determined by how you lift others up, empower them, share goodness with you, spread kindness and love, and offer compassion, understanding and respect.
Doing things so that you can prove that you are better, that you are more holy, that you may put other people to shame, that you may dishonour somebody that you consider to be wicked or deceitful: all of this is done with the wrong motives...
I read in a book by TD Jakes that real leaders empower others to maximize their potential as well. He leads by inspiration and not by demand or force.
When people respect you, they should do it because they see how much you love and care about them, and how much you love and care about God. Respect should not be demanded or given through condemnation or fear, that is not the right attitude.
Also Christians should never try to alieante others from the faith. When you try to convert somebody else or life them up, you should never view them as an inferior, or an enemy but always as somebody who shares the same harmony and environment as you. Remember we are required to love the least and not merely the greatest.
God brought his word into this world to change it, save it, redeem it, and sanctify it, He did not bring his word in to damn others. The bible says that god does not delight in the destruction of the wicked man.
When you get into a religious disagreement with somebody, always remember that people are more important than ideas, but justice is more important than all.
Kindness is an unconditional obligation that God gave each of us to fulfill and we must not seek to destroy it or forsake it in our attempt to further advance our ministry, testimony or religious knowledge.
There are many believers today who worship violence instead of love. They worship the violence of God rather than worshipping the love of God.
You may have anger or short comings but the important thing is that you remember to take pride in your anger or in your bitterness.
What I say may be painfully obvious to some, but to others, they live as if they don't know these things.
Remember do not judge others, but rather seek to save them, because everybody is a victim in one way or another.