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    Why Would You Pray For Someone Who Despitefully Uses You?

    Friday, September 19, 2014, 1:25 PM [General]


    Why would anyone pray for someone who despitefully uses them?

    You would do it because that prayer is your guarantee against the permanent soul damage that may result from the user's actions.

    How does this work?

    1)  When you pray for that person, your mind and spirit free themselves from responsibility for that person's hostile actions and hostile energy. You have turned that person, and their state of mind, over to God. You no longer try to adjust your behavior to "fix" them and to "keep them happy."

    2)  When you pray for that person, you place yourself under God's protection. Your decision to obey this very challenging command is an affirmation of faith in God's judgment of how difficult people are to be handled. Your prayer is an affirmation of your obedience.

    That affirmation of obedience directs your focus away from the "user" and back to God. Your thoughts are no longer tied to "what they did." Your thoughts are focused on "what God will do." Instead of uselessly expecting someone to "make things right", you look to God. This looking to God cancels disappointment. This opens your mind to faith and hope, and to new possibilities.

    How many times have you heard speakers and teachers say "Energy follows focus"?

    Ironically, when you pray for the despiteful user, your focus moves away from them.

    3)    Praying for someone who did not treat you well is your personal expression of freedom. You cannot hold the hurt and pain while you pray for them. At first, this will not "feel right." Stick with it! As you continue, you will notice you don't cry anymore when you think about them. Your fists don't ball up. You don't feel that tension in your shoulders. You remember facts, but you are no longer poisoned by negative energy.

    If someone is abusing you and placing you in danger, you must take carefully planned steps to get away from them. Praying is not a substitute for rational action when your safety is at risk. Please see my post on the topic of "Why Do So Many Churches Tell Women To Stay In Abusive Marriages?"

    Regardless of where you are physically located, you can pray for that person. You can begin the process of healing yourself. As is often the case, prayer is not about making a different outcome. Prayer is about making you a different person who is free and capable of creating God-willed outcomes.

    The command to "pray for those who despitefully use you" is definitely one of Jesus' "hard sayings." This saying seems counter-intuitive. As you practice this prayer, something happens in you, something you could not have anticipated or expected. It is called a miracle.


    (c) 2014  Deborah Evans

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    Did The Southern Church Lose Its Testimony During Freedom Summer Fifty Years Ago?

    Friday, August 8, 2014, 3:10 PM [General]

    "Once upon a time, a visitor came to the monastery looking for the purpose and meaning of life.

    The Teacher said to the visitor, 'If what you seek is Truth, there is one thing you must have above all else.'

    'I know', said the visitor. 'To find Truth, I must have an overwhelming passion for it.'

    'No", said the Teacher. 'In order to find Truth, you must have an unremitting readiness to admit you may be wrong.' "
    ----from Wisdom Distilled From the Daily, by Joan Chittister

    photo from Veterans of the Civil Rights Movement

    Why was it so difficult for the southern, white church to acknowledge segregation was wrong?

    For some, this question may pose another question: why was it so difficult for southern white culture to acknowledge segregation was wrong?

    My original question is based upon the assumption that the church does not accept without question or challenge the values and mores of the larger society. In this case, the church obviously did accept those values and mores. The few who spoke out for what was right were often labeled "enemy."  Did the church lose its testimony because it refused to visibly and vocally challenge the violence that was needed to enforce segregation?

    Was the southern church co-opted culturally by the larger society in which it lived and functioned? For the record, many elements in what was then called the southern Negro church did not support civil rights during its earliest days. Many conservative African-Americans feared the disruption and retribution that would come with a push for civil rights. Based on their (well-founded) fear, they also sat on the sidelines, or accused the civil rights workers of being trouble-makers and rabble-rousers.

    Why was the southern white church also so afraid of change that those who spoke out for the righteousness of civil rights were excluded and ostracized?

    How was it possible that southern white Christians did not see a brotherhood and sisterhood of faith in their African-American neighbors? Why was it so much easier to speak about "personal salvation in Jesus Christ" and "holiness and sanctification" that it was to say that all Americans should be treated as citizens? Who were "the least of these" in this situation? How many sermons on the Good Samaritan were preached in churches where African-Americans were not welcomed or even permitted?

    How many ministers said "those people won't come to our churches anyway?" How many laypersons felt it was permissible to eat food and wear clothes prepared by women with whom they refused to worship? How many times did ministers preach on Lazarus and the Rich Man without considering how their actions appeared to an unredeemed world?

    Why was so much pseudo-science accepted as reasonable explanations for legally and forcibly separating people who worshiped the same God, read from the same Bible, and looked forward to the same Heaven?

    I suppose arguments could be made regarding social comfort and traditional practices. Still, I wonder how many of those outside of the church watched in wonder or mockery as church leaders and laypersons affirmed the right of the government to separate people based on race. I wonder how many atheists mocked the Gospel as so-called Christians remained silent while churches were bombed, busses were bombed, and peaceful demonstrators were set upon by police dogs and high powered fire hoses.

    Why was it so difficult for the church to admit legal segregation was wrong? Can a testimony lost ever be regained?
    (c) 2014  Deborah Evans
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    Ladies, What Do You See When You Look in the Mirror?

    Thursday, July 3, 2014, 4:24 PM [General]

    Ladies, when you look in the mirror, what do you see?
     If you are a believer in Jesus Christ, your answer can be “I see a beautiful reflection of God when I look in the mirror.”
    Why is it so difficult for so many of us to easily and honestly give that answer?
    Perhaps no one has ever told us we are beautiful reflections of God.
    Reflections of God must be nothing less than beautiful, if we believe God to be beautiful. If our God is beautiful, surely we must share at least a sliver of that beauty in our physical selves. We can see it every day and acknowledge it with gratitude and grace.
    Do we let the world tell us what is beautiful? Did some of us get mixed up and lost at that point? 
    Basically, the world tells all of us that only a very tiny number of us are (or ever can be) truly beautiful and the rest of us must spend some of our spare time imitating, adoring, watching, and obsessing over “the beautiful.” When we are finished with the obsessing and the adoring, we are (directly and indirectly) instructed to head off to the stores and sites to buy something to bring us to a near approximation of beauty. We are offered no guarantees we will actually arrive at “the beauty destination.” We are, however, told we can never give up trying. Trying, by the way, often seems to involve spending lots of money and experimenting with lots of products and waiting in lines in salons, spas, gyms, and the like.
    I am all for enhancing physical appearance. Of course, we all want to look our best. Healthy enhancement, however, begins from a place of self-acceptance, not a place of self-denial.
    God tells us we are beautiful because we are His children. I like that approach to beauty. It’s possible for everyone to qualify to be beautiful in God’s approach.
    How often have you watched family and friends smile over a newborn, certain the child will grow up to be beautiful because both parents are “good looking”?
    Can any less be true for the children of God?
    Recently, someone posted this quote on my facebook: “Do not fall in love with what’s on the outside. Fall in love with what’s on the inside, because that is what you will live with.”
    I decided to memorize that statement because it is an ongoing reminder to me of how easily so many of us are seduced by good looks, of how easy it is to believe if someone is physically attractive they must also be good in the ways that really count and really matter.
    Like many of you, I followed with interest and excitement this year’s media coverage of the Academy Award winning Kenyan actress Lupita Nyong’o. Her stunning expression of confidence in her own beauty (based on character and skill and preparation and courage, along with genes!) seemed to convince many that beauty had no single look. I hope that belief lives on.
    Too many of us believe if we have dark skin, tightly curled hair, and full lips, we cannot be beautiful in anyone’s eyes, including our own. That belief is a spiritual problem, because that type of thinking elevates the legacy of colonialism and slavery over God’s permanent declaration of the goodness and beauty of His people.
    Too many of us believe if we have fair skin and straight hair, we need to be “fixed” with tanning and (chemically caustic) perms. That belief is a spiritual problem, because these processes are known to damage the health of the physical bodies we need to continue living on the Earth.
    Too many of us believe if our bodies do not match a certain size or number, we have no right to be seen in public, and certainly no right to go to swim at the beach or in a public pool, or to wear bright, happy colors. That belief is a spiritual problem, because God does not wait for us to reach a certain size before He expresses His love for us and sends His Holy Spirit to live in us.
    Too many of us believe if we have reached a certain age, the best is behind us and we can never achieve any new heights because we are too old to be accepted or appreciated. That belief is a spiritual problem, because all of the life experience God has allowed you to have can guide and bless someone who waits to meet you around the bend on life’s road.
    Beauty is a gift from God, and must always exist in whatever form He has chosen to create us. If that’s too difficult to believe, I invite you to spend more time listening to God and reading His word, and less time listening to those who aren’t in “the family of God.”
    Beauty was not created for some of us to generate envy or jealousy from the rest of us. Beauty exists at all because it is God’s expression of self, and must be good and can live always within and upon anyone who is His, who is in “the family”, who looks to Him for everything worth knowing and having.
    P.S. “Family” membership is open to any and all, at no cost, and upon request.  No sponsor is required for this membership. You can nominate yourself. That’s “the good news”, aka The Gospel.
    (c)2014  Deborah Evans
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    Even Before Pentecost: The Power of the Ascension

    Tuesday, June 17, 2014, 4:00 PM [General]

    Even Before Pentecost: Seeking and Finding Meaning in the Ascension

     

    Ascension Sunday has fallen into obscurity and neglect in many denominations. I’ve posted about this previously, but I am still saddened by the trend.

    I am beginning to create a small, at-home worship ritual celebrating the Ascension and based on meditative readings of Acts chapter one and Revelation chapters one and twenty-two.

    The Ascension is important because it answers an important question: what happened to Jesus after his resurrection?

    The answer matters.

    The passage from Acts explains many things. One of them is this: Jesus is a supernatural person who arrived in an extraordinary manner and left in an extraordinary manner. Jesus will return in the same, extraordinary manner in which he left.

    Also, Jesus told his disciples to wait before rushing off into “the next great thing.” He told them some things were not for them to know at that moment. Jesus did, however, give them a glimpse of their futures.

    Jesus told his disciples they would receive power after the promised Holy Spirit came upon them and into them. Jesus told the disciples they would be his witnesses locally and, eventually, out and into the ends of the earth.

    What is interesting is that Jesus did not tell his disciples what they asked him to tell them. Isn’t this the same Jesus who once said “ask, seek, and knock?” He didn’t tell them what they asked, but he did tell them what they needed to know. In the deepest way, he answered the question the disciples didn’t have the insight to ask.

    He told them they would do something larger and more expansive than they’d imagined.

    The disciples wanted to know if Jesus was ready to liberate Israel from Roman control and restore the nation to its historical independence.

    Jesus responded by telling the disciples they would receive power—as opposed to waiting for him to do something in the earth. They would be his witnesses to people who had never heard of him.

    In response to the disciples’ questioning of what Jesus would do next, Jesus tells them what they would do next. Then he leaves. He left them to do something bigger than they’d expected. In fact, he left them to do something no one had ever done, something

    no one was expecting, and something many people we not ready to accept.  He knew they needed supernatural empowerment.

    I love this account of Jesus’ final “in person” words to his disciples because he reverses their question while at the same time telling them what they really wanted to know.

    They wanted to know this: “what’s next”? That’s the question we often ask after a mountaintop experience.

    Jesus’ answer to them—and to us—was, and is, this: 1) Wait to become empowered through God, and 2) After becoming empowered through God, think and act more expansively than you ever have!

    Living as an authentic witness of God’s power and presence is the most important thing a Christian can do.

     As we leave the details of the time, the place, and the circumstance of our witnessing up to God, we are enabled and prepared to do more than we had imagined. Witnessing means showing and telling what we have experienced in a way to points directly to the goodness of God, not to our own skills, willpower, or abilities. That type of witnessing cannot be done apart from the Holy Spirit’s leading, guidance, and empowerment.

    This is the promise and the meaning of the Ascension.

    (c) 2014 Deborah Evans

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    Why Do Churches Tell Women To Stay In Abusive Marriages?

    Wednesday, May 7, 2014, 7:22 PM [General]

    I got flowers today!
    It wasn’t my birthday or any other special day.
    We had our first argument last night.
    And he said a lot of cruel things that really hurt.
    I know he is sorry and didn’t mean to say the things he said,
    Because he sent me flowers today.
    I got flowers today!
    It wasn’t our anniversary or any other special day.
    Last night he threw me into a wall and then started choking me.
    It seemed like a nightmare,
    But you wake up from nightmares to find they aren’t real.
     I got flowers today!
    It wasn’t Valentine’s Day or any other special day.
    Make- up and long sleeves didn’t hide the cuts and bruises this time.
    I know he’s sorry because he sent me flowers today.
    I got flowers today!
    And it wasn’t Mother’s Day or any other special day.
    Last night he beat me again, and it was much worse than all the other times.
    If I leave him now, what will I do?
    How will I take care of the kids?
    What about money?
    I’m afraid of him, but I’m too scared and dependent to leave him.
    But he must be sorry because he sent me flowers today.
    I got flowers today…
    Today was a very special day—it was the day of my funeral.
    Last night he finally killed me. I was beaten to death.
    If only I would have gathered the courage and strength to leave him.
    The women’s shelter could have helped me, but I didn’t ask for their help.
    So I got flowers today…for the last time.
    I don’t know the author of this poem, but the message is clear: domestic abuse can lead to death and often the victim doesn’t believe it can happen to her until it is too late for her to escape with her life.
    A good friend sent me this poem earlier in the year. I promised her I would write a post about domestic violence, but getting this together took longer than I’d planned because one question kept floating in my mind: why do so many churches tell women to stay in abusive marriages?
    The imaginary character in this poem probably realized in the last few moments of her life that she had no time left. No time to escape. No time to call for help. No time to get to the women’s shelter. Yes, he really was going to kill her this time. The last things she would see in this world were an angry face and a pounding fist. No time left to make arrangements so that her children would not grow up as orphans: one dead parent and another parent in prison for a long time or for life.
    I have listened to older women tell me of their life experiences. 
    Sometimes, the story goes like this:
    “Yes I talked to Rev. So-and-So, or to Rev. So-and-So’s wife, or to the Deacon, or to the Elder, and they told me to try a little harder. They told me no one is perfect. They even said something about wifely submission in Christian marriage.
    No, they were not going to talk to him because they did not want to get involved in somebody else’s personal business in that way. He had not asked for their advice and they did not offer advice to those who did not ask for it.
    They said that no relationship is perfect. I needed to think about my children and how they were going to be supported. They said he’s just going through a bad time. They asked me why I couldn’t get along with him. They said if he’s irritable, just stay out of his way for the evening. Was dinner ready when he got home after working all day? They said if our sex life was better, he wouldn’t be so edgy all of the time.
    They told me Scripture forbids divorce except in the case of adultery. Was he cheating on me? How did I know for sure? They told me about forgiveness and being willing to put the past behind me.
    They told me all couples go through bad times. They said you can’t quit just because things are hard. They said they understood. They said maybe we needed to take a vacation. They said we should get a babysitter one night a week and go out to dinner and a movie.
     They said there are not a lot of good men out there and that I am not a spring chicken. And I am not perfect either. They told me they really didn’t have an extra room in their house and that my children would be totally humiliated going to school while living in a shelter. They told me to pray and wait on Jesus They said He may not come when I want Him, but He’s always on time.”
    To my friend M. and everyone else who reads this: I have not come up with a definitive answer for why some churches deny the seriousness of domestic violence and feel it’s OK for women and children  to live in fear in their own homes.
    Here’s my best shot:
    Often, we (Christians and other “church people”) are too ashamed to admit we don’t have readymade answers for all of the craziness life can throw our way. So we rationalize things we should condemn. Some people have put up with things they never should have tolerated and don’t think you have the right to avoid it if they couldn’t avoid it.  After all, you are no better than they are, right?
    It may be difficult for someone to admit the church member or officer who sits proudly in a place of honor on Sunday morning or Wednesday evening is actually a raging bully at home to those he doesn’t feel a need to impress.
    Some people believe you should sacrifice your honor and self- respect and safety so there isn’t another scandal in the church. Some people believe the worst things that can happen never actually happen.
    Some people don’t really believe you have a right to be safe and in comfort in your own home. They just do not think you have a right to insist upon those things. Actually, they do not think you have a right to insist upon anything at all. You are supposed to take whatever someone wants to hand off  to you. They don’t think you deserve the best because they have let the world tell them their value and your value…and it isn’t much.
    What’s the solution? Love yourself, because God does. Make a plan and seek safety for yourself and any young person who depends upon you. God is with the courageous who seek His protection.
    (c) 2014 Deborah Evans
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    Pocketed Sermon: "I am not ashamed of the gospel of Jesus Christ"

    Monday, April 14, 2014, 7:26 PM [General]

    Several Sundays ago, we had a last minute emergency regarding a guest minister and I was asked to preach if the guest was unable to make it. I agreed, and began to think about what I would say to the congregation.

    I meditated on what is the most important reminder the church universal needs regarding who we are and why we are here.

     I was led to this passage from 2 Timothy 1:12:

    “…I am not ashamed, because I know whom I have believed, and am convinced that he is able to guard what I have entrusted to him for that day.”

    Here are the words of a man about to face execution, a man  who has been abandoned by his associates and betrayed by those who thought he could rely upon. This man, Paul the apostle, is facing death because of his testimony for and about Jesus Christ.

    Paul, a man who was widely regarded as a powerhouse intellectual in his day and time, had been cajoled  and laughed at for believing in fairy tales and false truths as he traveled, taught, and preached the gospel. Still, Paul says he is not ashamed because of one fact:

    “I know whom I have believed and am convinced that he is able to guard  what I have entrusted to him for that day.”

     What does this mean?

    First, it means that for Paul, Jesus was not a concept, or an idea. Jesus was a person Paul knew, loved, trusted, communed with, was led by, and looked forward to seeing in eternity. Paul says he knew this One In Whom He Believed. How often have you been ashamed of someone you have known, loved, trusted, and found friendship in?

    Second, Paul says he knew Jesus was able to guard what Paul entrusted to Jesus. This means Paul knew his earthly life and eternal self were secure because Paul trusted Jesus completely. Why so much trust in the unseen?  Paul believed in Jesus because Jesus had kept Paul safe in his earthly life.

    How much safety did Paul need? Paul faced stoning, beatings, legal troubles, jailing, nasty church politics, loneliness, constant travels under rough conditions, a mysterious physical ailment, religious controversies, and outright hostile opposition to his message and to his life. At the end of his life, Paul could look back and reflect upon how Jesus had kept him secure and on message through all of these experiences.

    Third, Paul says he’s entrusted himself to Jesus “for that day.” “That day” or “in that day” is a phrase that appears throughout the Old and New Testaments, referring to that final re-arranging of reality, the final judgment, or the complete restoration of God’s original plan for humanity.

    What Paul is saying here is that he sees himself as an eternal spiritual being that will live somewhere forever. He can’t anticipate everything about that future life, but Paul says that all he’s ever been is safe in Jesus’ care, and even after Paul’s physical body is destroyed, his life will be kept and restored fully in God’s will and on God’s schedule.

    I didn’t need to preach this sermon that morning. The guest preacher arrived just in time.

    I think Paul’s farewell message is one we can never hear too often: have no shame or silence regarding the greatest gift to humanity---God’s salvation from our failing selves and our failing world. Reflect upon what God has done for you through your fellowship with Jesus Christ. Finally, be the person who is not afraid to share who you are and what you know to be true. Every day, some event or person will challenge you to say or show who you are and why you are here. The answer should always begin with the gospel of Jesus Christ.

     

     (c) 2014 Deborah Evans

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    The Truth About Christian Community

    Saturday, April 5, 2014, 12:09 PM [General]



    Graphic is from reachingcampus.com


    More insights from my Lenten reading, this one from  pages 44 and 45 of Joan Chittister's  Wisdom Distilled From The Daily.

    "So, even liking one another is not enough. The truth about Christian community is that we have to be committed to the same eternal things together. What we want to live for and how we intend to live out those values are the central questions of community. Without that understanding, communities fail and marriages dissolve and people leave religious life and nations go to war."

    "Another function of community is to enable us to be about something greater than ourselves. It is no small task in a world that tells us" (especially in North America--my words) "constantly that we ourselves are enough to be concerned about and that everything else will take care of itself. Well, that kind of enlightened altruism has not saved us from the destruction of the ozone layer, or the deterioration of the centers of our cities, or massive unemployment even among educated upper-middle class executives, or wars against the innocent."

    God, help me to be in and about and for community. Now and always.


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    Revelation 1:1 Where Is Jesus Now, And What Is He Doing?

    Monday, March 17, 2014, 3:03 PM [General]

    " [This is] the revelation of Jesus Christ [His unveiling of the divine mysteries]. God gave it to Him to disclose and make known to His bond servants certain things which must shortly and speedily come to pass a]">[a]in their entirety. And He sent and communicated it through His angel (messenger) to His bond servant John,

    Who has testified to and vouched for all that he saw [b]">[b]in his visions], the word of God and the testimony of Jesus Christ." --Revelation 1:1. The Amplified Bible

    While growing up (I'm a PK), I asked my father if he would ever preach a sermon on the following topic: where is Jesus right now, and what is He doing? He did later (years later) preach a sermon on a topic that begins to answer the question. He preached from the Book of Revelation and described the challenges for the church at Sardis, an ancient city near modern day Turkey.

    During this season of Lent, I've been reading and re-reading (silently and aloud) the Book of Revelation. It is in this book that the answer to my childhood question is found. This is a powerful book, with a unique, personal message to each person who cares enough to read it and meditate on it.


    The first three chapters of the book describe Jesus' messages of encouragement and correction for several ancient churches. More importantly, we see Jesus as He is now. He holds a place of honor in the Eternal Presence. He is guiding, protecting, encouraging, and correcting His churches. His words given thousands of years ago still have meaning because, for better or worse, human nature hasn't changed much in 2,000 years.


    Jesus expresses to each church (and by extension, each believer) that He knows their true situation. Whether it is poverty, arrogance, fear, boldness, steadfast determination, or failure. He is not watching us at a distance through a telescope. He is ever present, and knows exactly what we are dealing with. We never have to begin our prayers with "Lord, look at what these people are doing!" He's right there; He knows.

    He tells believers what must be done in order for them to move forward. He is in total control of the circumstances of human life.  He is, as John says in the first chapter, The Ruler of The Kings on Earth.


    Jesus has a word of compliment and a word of correction for most of these churches---and again, by extension, for each of us. He expresses empathy, explaining in detail how much He  understands of their condition. He stands against the heresy that misleads innocent seekers and weak believers. He explains the rewards awaiting those who stick with Him until the end. He warns those who refuse to accept correction, who live by the motto "Do You." He encourages those who are struggling under tough circumstances. Most of all, He promises a clear and valuable, eternal reward for those who worship and love Him.


    Revelation may seem an odd book to dive into during Lent, when so many of our lessons and sermons are taught and preached from the Gospels. Still, after the gospels come the teachings and after the teachings come The Revelation of the One We Are Following. He never left us, not really. He walks among His church and His believers. He doesn't always promise escape from pain, but He always promises His presence. He promises that, at the right time, He will wipe away every tear. The end of the story is a glorious one, in which pain and loss will be removed, destroyed, and forgotten---eternally replaced with joy, completion, reunion, and reward.

    (c) 2014 Deborah Evans

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    Climb the Mountain or Speak to the Mountain?

    Monday, February 10, 2014, 1:57 PM [General]

    “Now Lord, don’t move my mountain
    But give me the strength to climb.
    And Lord, don’t take away my stumbling block,
    But lead me all around.”
    --Inez Andrews
    Mahalia Jackson, a gospel music great, as was Inez Andrews, made this song famous. Others have performed it over the years with soul, energy, and conviction. It sounds powerful, convicting, and inspiring. It has the essence of determination and commitment in the words. 
    This song makes you a believer in getting up and trying one more time.
    As much as I love this song (and have enjoyed listening to it over the years), I stumbled a bit when I considered what Jesus said about mountains and how to handle them.
    At Matthew 17:20, Jesus answers his disciples when they questioned why they were unable to drive out a demon and heal a sick boy. Here’s what Jesus said:
    “…because you have so little faith. I tell you the truth, if you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there’ and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you.”
    When was the last time you heard a sermon on this?
    Jesus is not speaking  to super-developed saints here. He tells the disciples they couldn’t heal because of their lack of faith. Please note: the failure to heal had nothing to do with the faith of the person requesting the healing. Remember this the next time a televangelist asks someone in the audience if that someone has enough faith to be healed.
    What Jesus says here is that we are not to ask him to move the mountain and we are not to ask him to give us strength to climb. We are supposed to speak to the mountain, telling it to move, and it shall move.
    When was the last time you or I did that?
    When was the last time I spoke to the mountains of fear, procrastination, bitterness, or stagnation and told them to move? When was the last time you or I spoke to any mountain, telling it to move?  Did these mountains move? Did we really want them to move? Have we started to like some of these mountains?
    Did that mountain move the first time I told it to move, or did I have to tell it to move more than once?
    Keep in mind: speaking to the mountain is not the same as speaking about the mountain.
    Is it too much to accept Jesus’ words when He says “Nothing shall be impossible for you?”
    You might tell yourself, “Oh, Jesus was just speaking to His disciples who lived with Him. That’s not for today.” Isn’t that a nice way of freeing yourself from responsibility for speaking to your mountains?
    Do you and I love struggle more than we love faith and mountain moving? You don't need great faith to move a mountain, according to Jesus. Mustard seeds are tiny!
    Are we afraid to go to the next level because we don’t know anyone who has? Are we afraid to view the world as a place where we can move mountains? When Jesus tells us “Nothing shall be impossible for you”, does a little voice in your mind say, “That can’t be right”? Where would that little voice come from?
    Do we really know what it means to be Christian, as in Christ-like, or Christ-ian? Whose directions are we following?
    Jesus didn’t say our power would move the mountain, but He did say we must speak to the mountain.
    “ I tell you the truth, if you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there’ and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you.”
    (c) 2014 Deborah Evans
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    Forgive and Forget? Let's Be Honest Here

    Wednesday, January 29, 2014, 3:25 PM [General]

    Often, we are told, in the name of being obedient or “good”, to forgive and forget. What does this really mean, and is it possible to truly forgive and forget?

    I suppose that depends upon what you are forgiving and forgetting. If you are forgiving and forgetting someone cutting you off in traffic, or taking the parking place you were going for in a busy lot, maybe you can forgive and forget that.

    What happens when we consider something on a larger scale?

    You or a family member or close friend becomes the victim of a violent crime.

    A doctor misdiagnoses you, and now you face a deeply rooted serious illness.

    Your spouse abandons you without reason, and your personal and financial life is devastated.

    You are unfairly fired from the job you badly needed.

    You are the victim of domestic abuse, or, more accurately, home violence. You leave your home one day with only what you can carry.

    Yes, I believe you can work on forgiving the person or persons responsible for these things. But forgetting these things? No, I don’t think so.

    When events are major markers in our lives, we don’t really forget them unless something happens to damage our memories or thinking processes.

    Just as we don’t forget the high points of life ( graduating from school, a first job, a wedding day, a child’s birth, a grandchild’s birth, that first apartment or house, etc.), we don’t forget the deep injuries because these events shape our lives and often permanently change life’s direction.

    Forgiveness does free us, and keeps a single event from destroying other good things life could offer. What about the forgetting?

    Well, you might not be able to forget the event, but you can choose to forget how it made you feel. You can forget the sense of being less than, the sense of being unappreciated, the sense of being forgotten and disrespected, the sense of being unwanted and uncared for, the sense of being less valuable than others seem to be.

    You can remind yourself on a daily basis: what someone else did is not the defining moment of my life, unless I allow it.

    And actually, why should you forget? Someday, you may be able to help someone else by saying: “Yes, it’s possible to overcome _______. I know, because I’ve been there and I’ve done it Let me help you on that path.”

    In the back of my mind, there’s also my little suspicion that people who say we should forgive and forget sometimes just want to set us up to be hurt over and over again by someone who doesn’t care about us and doesn’t deserve the right to injure us without limit.

    Forgive because forgiving is one of the most healing gifts you can give yourself. You have to do it on purpose and no one can do it for you. You put your own life back on course when you forgive. It’s a reclaiming of your power. Without forgiveness, the injury-maker reshapes your entire life and you shouldn’t give them that right.

    In the back of your mind, you know the person who injured you really can’t heal you, so if you want to be healed, why keep your energy pointed in their direction? Get help if you need it, but release the injury-maker and take your life back.

    Forget the pain and remember the victory. Grow stronger, share, help others, and widen the circle of your life. That’s true winning.

     From Paravanes:Meditations   

    (c) 2014 Deborah Evans

     

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