I think I've learned to trust my instincts and not rush into something because everyone else thought it was a good thing. I wanted to RUN the first time I heard that Ted was interested in me, and that is what I should've done! He fooled everybody....the whole Kingdom Hall, my sweet children, and me! He turned on me like a rabid wolf the instant he knew that I was going to marry him, and I counted it as he was in a lot of pain from a pinched nerve in his back. So I overlooked his rages and occasional cursing. What was I thinking? Oh if I had only run when I had the chance. But I went ahead with it. I still thought that he was a good guy and when his back got better he would be the sweet man I thought he was (after everyone convinced me of that). Ha Ha. The honeymoon was a bad dream, if not a nightmare. We cut it short because I wanted to go home. His tantrums and cruel words were horrible. We lived together for 3 months. Then I left one day when he cursed me out and raised a heavy c rystal c andle holder to throw at me. After that he went to anger management sessions for a few months, but quit after awhile, after not making any progress.
Now he is divorcing me. Isn't that a hoot? He says he made a mistake! He won't talk to me, hasn't given me one cent of support, and has vanished from everyones' lives---no one knows where he is. He thinks he doesn't have to answer to anybody! When the elders catch up to him, they'll tell him different.
The past year and a half has been a terrible time for me and for my family. They all accepted him and showed him a lot of love, as did I. Now my daughter has PTSD and is fighting Epstein-Barr, along with other stress-related things. Poor thing. She was the one who was kindest to Ted, and he turned on her the worst.
When I first met him I thought he was crazy. I should've held onto that! He came to a party at my daughter's with a shirt that was his late wife's, and still wearing his wedding ring. She had been dead for a couple of years. The thing that really got me was that he made such a big deal of wearing her shirt. OK, your wife is dead, but you don't tell everyone you're wearing her shirt. She was the number one topic of his conversations, even when he married me! He was truly a wolf in sheep's clothing. He managed to convince everyone that was decent that he was a gentle, kind, loving man......all a lie. I wish I could erase this past year and a half. It will take a very long time to get him out of my mind, but healing has started. He can't hide from God, and I hope He sees fit to bring onto him his just deserts sooner than later.