Instead of saying, 'I am no good. I can't do anything, I want to disappear and die,' you will learn, little by little, to say, 'I feel sad and I feel like dying, and I don't know where this is coming from.' So you gradually discover these two different parts within you: the secret, hidden self which is the source of your being and your life, and the other, wounded self which sends messages of sadness, death and rejection to your consciousness.

Jean Vanier, Seeing Beyond Depression, p. 53