“Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy”
-Norman Vincent Peale
8 Steps To Total Self-Confidence
Step 1. Decide what God looks like
-If you don't think God loves you, you will never truly love yourself. If you don't believe in God at all that's fine, it means you shouldn't feel any guilt or unworthiness either way!
Step 2. Ask yourself, is there anyone on earth that you'd be willing to switch places with 100%. You'd get their fame and fortune, but also all of their problems. And you'd have to give up ALL your friends, family, and everything you've ever known. Would you do it?
Step 3. List everything you are truly grateful for.
As you know, gratitude is the cornerstone of the Law of Attraction
The reason why I mention it here, is the more you become aware of how blessed you already are, than the easier it is to feel better about yourself and your life.
Step 4. List all of your 'bad' qualities, or things you would like to change about yourself.
Let's get it out of the way: take a pen and write down (or type out) everything thing that is 'wrong' with you, or that you'd like to change. Let it all out, usually this is the easiest part for most people!
But, once you have that list of imperfections, write next to each of them something you can do to change them; something you can do in the next 24 hours to start turning it around. If you feel you are overweight, resolve to eat less over the next day or at least pick a diet plan you can stick to. If you feel like you are too negative, resolve to think of one nice thing to say to everyone you meet, etc.
Step 5. List all of your good qualities!
I know, you might be feeling a bit bummed out after the last list, but here is where we get back to feeling good. And, just in case you think you don't have anything going for you, send me a message and I'll list about 20 in 2 minutes or less.
Step 6. Forgive all past slights.
You've probably heard me repeat Buddha’s quote: “holding on to anger with the intent of hurting someone else is like grasping a hot coal to throw it, you are the one who gets burned”. Anger is one of the most toxic of all emotions, it's like a big weight that will always keep you tied down. Believe it or not anger can be useful if you apply it correctly as motivation to take positive action.
For now, resolve to forgive and forget any and everything that has ever been done to you. The person was probably not trying to hurt you on purpose, and even if they were it was probably just their misguided attempt at protecting themselves.
Let it go, you've carried it long enough.
Step 7. Know that you are worthy.
The reason why I started this off by asking how you see God, is if you believe you were made in His/Her/Its image and likeness, then you should already know you are worthy. Unfortunately many religions teach that mankind is somehow 'fallen', when in reality nothing could be further from the truth. I am here to tell you, there is nothing wrong with you; you're already perfect, all you have to do is accept it. God loves you just like you are, you don't deserve to be punished for anything; and if you did I'm sure you've already been punished enough.
Step 8. Love yourself.
This might seem a little bit corny, but I want you to know it's the people who aren't willing to do this that have the lowest self esteem.
When you look into a mirror, any and every time you look into a mirror, I want you to say two things: “You're great, and I love you”.
I'll leave it up to you if you want to say it out loud, or just inside; but say it.
It might feel a little weird at first, but that just shows you how cruel you've been to yourself up until now!
I can tell you this: you are a wonderful, powerful, miraculous, good and worthy person. I don't have to know you to tell you that, because we've been lead to come together like this, and I have faith that I only encounter those kinds of people!
Hey, I know there are people out there, maybe a LOT of people who are going to try and get you down. In the end, they are just trying to deal with their own fears and insecurities; it's got nothing to do with you.
It is up to you to realize your own inner Divinity, and embrace your own power; stand up and take control of your life, and resolve to never give your power away to other people ever again.
God loves you, and so do I!